Interracial Dating, A Perspective

Skin color shouldn't prevent who you are attracted to or who you fall in love with. Race doesn't exist in the first place its just a social illusion to mantain a social hierarchy. Today in class race was the discussion evolved into black men dating white women. Many generalizations were thrown at why black men and white women: white women are status whores, black men are weak, media promotes white beauty (which is true),etc. You know the same stereotypes. The truth is that black men do not belong to black women and white women do not belong to white men. The same holds true that black women do not belong to black men and white men do not belong to white women. Attraction is more than skin color. Personality, environment, and what you have in common is what generally makes people find each other attractive to each other. Demeaning people on the aforementioned stereotypes is wrong. Not all white women seek black men because of status. Do some? Yeah. Not all black men seek out white women because they are perceived to be submissive. Do some? Probably. These relationships from my perspective evolve from commonality with the  other person and environment in which you live. By environment I mean diverse, open-minded liberal communities verses monolithic, socially conservative communities. I myself dated non-black women. Black women have always been my preference and probably always will be. I have dated a white girl, Filipina and Afro-Cuban girl (racially she is black but her culture was somewhat different that is why I included her even though our relationship wasn't an interracial one). We think seek each other out because we was like "damn I gotta get me a white girl" or "girl I gotta get a black dude" we just clicked. We had the same philiosophies on life, political views, social views, liked the same sports, movies, etc. Plus there was a physical attraction to go along with it. We liked each other because of the person not because of the color of the skin on that person. If you date outside your "race" I'm all for it. If you like it, I love it. However, don't date outside your race and demean your own women or men when you do. Don't be a black dude that talks bad about black women when you're dating a white girl. Don't be a black woman and talk bad about black men when you do. That's wrong. Do it because of the internal reasons like how they think, their sense of humor, and how much you two have in common. Pursuing someone just because of their skin color, in my opinion, does both parties a disfavor. By pursuing somebody because of skin color you'll be fethisizing a person because of their race. You're stripping away everything that makes them a person, personality, intelligence, demeanor. etc., and seeing them as an "other" to satisfy whatever personal interests you have. A racial toy if you will, to be shown off to the public to proclaim  how special you are because you have someone that differs from you by skin color. Attraction should be mutual no matter what somebody's skin color is. See people as a person not their skin color. Then let whatever happens, happen. Black couples are beautifulm white couples are beautiful, Asian couples are beautiful, Latin American couples are beauitiful, and interracial couples are beautiful. End stereotypes about interracial/interethnic couples and judge them by substance, not by societal stereotypes that exist to diminish one another, and by effect, continue the same cycle of ignorance that was started centuries ago when Europeans made contact with indigenous people. Date who you want to date. Like I said earlier, you like it, I love it. Do you.